It wasn't one of those hot, passionate kisses, yet it managed to stir up some sort of reaction from within me.

As much as I enjoy writing self checks, they are quite personal for me because they bring me to the point where I am cautious and actually do a scan of myself.

Talking is a part of our everyday life. Majority of it is done with words but it is also expressed in actions. We talk about a whole lot of stuff from things that are important to those which are not.

I was reflecting on a conversation the other day and I began thinking;

How many of the conversations that we have are actually beneficial?
How many are healthy?
Where is the line between just talking about someone and gossiping?

An insecurity is something that one is uncertain or anxious about. It is a state where one lacks confidence. Although we may never admit to it, a great percentage of the world's population is insecure about something in their life. It even gets worse with young people and personally, I think there are more insecure ladies out there.

"The wealthiest places in the world are not gold mines, oil fields, diamond mines or banks. The wealthiest place is the cemetery. There lies companies that were never started, masterpieces that were never painted… In the cemetery there is buried the greatest treasure of untapped potential. There is a treasure within you that must come out. Don’t go to the grave with your treasure still within YOU." - Myles Munroe

A whole lot of the wealth and treasures of this life lies in the grave and can never be tapped anymore. This happens most of the time because the persons involved were either scared of how the world would see them or were uncertain about how precious those treasures were.
If we live with all of our treasures sealed up inside and not reveal them to the world, we would be depriving a lot of people of stuff that they are supposed to get from us.
Here are a couple of steps that would help you in dealing with whatever makes you insecure.

• ACCEPT the fact that you are insecure. It is no hidden fact that accepting the reality of the existence of a problem is a great step in solving it. One of the issues with people that have insecurities is that they often try to ignore it or hide from it. We have the wrong notion that if we ignore something it will automatically disappear but that is not true. In fact, in more ways than not, the things that we try to ignore and shut our eyes from negatively affect our choices and our attitude to every other thing that is seemingly good in our live. We find ourselves operating at a lower level than we ought to because we have not really dealt with the things that are pulling us down. Now in accepting the fact that you are insecure, it is important that it is done with the right attitude. The reason for accepting the insecurities is not so that you can sulk about them and withdraw into your closet but so that you can muster enough courage to face and deal with them.

• DISCOVER who or what is making you insecure. People get insecure over different things and for different reasons and if you must correctly deal with the issues, you must first find out the reasons behind them, the cause. Some people are insecure about how they look, others get insecure about not being good enough in their display of talents or skills. Very often, the source of our insecurity is our very self. Everyone kind of has these small pep talks with themselves and whatever you say to yourself, you believe. Some people have been able to convince themselves over time that they are not good enough, that they do not deserve the best but that is absolutely not true. Some people on the other hand have grown insecure because if what people have repeatedly told them. To kill the fire of insecurities, you must find out the source from where it's been fueled.

• SHUT OUT the negativity. You need to actively silence the voice of anything or anyone that is not positively impacting your life. You have to realize that life is too short to dwell on the things that are negative. It honestly takes a lot of energy and will power to neutralize the effect of the things that are negative so its a whole lot better to close the channel of negative influence. The things that you listen to have a way of affecting your though pattern and your thoughts affect your actions. Choose to listen to the right things only. Now you may have to let go of some 'friends' but it's also important that you have people in your life who will help you see the best in you.

• STEP UP to higher grounds. Now that we have closed the door of negativity, it's time to step up and do the things you were too scared to do. Maybe you had issues with your physique, it's time to look at yourself and see the beauty in your eyes. Embrace your personality, walk up tall and live the life that God wants you to live.