Hi Lovelies! Happy weekend!
It's Friday and that means it's Fab Links day! 

• I'm Nigerian and most of you guys are Nigerians too. We all know about how tough things have been and when I saw this post, I thought to myself that someone may need to read this. So, here is +Sisi Yemmie's How to succeed in a tough economy
• Several 'relationship' posts have been finding their way to me recently. I'm like GOD is this a sign? (lol. jk!). Here's one of the that I learnt a lot from, The four seasons of marriage
• I've been enjoying the Girl Chat Series by Mide. The most recent one is 10 Things a Woman Should Do Before She Turns 30
• I found this +Dephne Madyara's post, Too Anointed To Work A 9-5 Job? insightful. 

I recognize this place.
I know this state, this feeling is familiar.
My cheeks have felt this liquid run down them before, the temperature, the speed, the ...
Their slow but steady arrival at the skin near my lips and their salty similarity to the dead sea often kept me in a state, afloat.
My hands have lost their grip and paper that I tried crafting words on looks more like a paper mache.

This is the first time that I felt anything in the last couple of months. Too bad, all I feel is heavy sadness and a longing for death.

My therapist did tell me that it was going to get messy. She definitely warned me of the possibility that my fences would break down soon and that the storm that would follow would be tough.

I really didn't want to start off planning my life again or write out a CV having the fact that I didn't graduate. Being an aeronautical engineer was my number one goal, it was all I ever wanted, I couldn't imagine dreaming another dream or living another life but I had lost so much passion for school.

Hi Everyone!!! It's the weekend and ummm, I don't know about you but I cherish my weekends because I get to spend some more time writing! And hanging with one of my good buddies, Helen.
Life is beautiful and people add colour to life; bright, dark, shady, popping. The diversity of people is what makes life interesting.

I'm pretty sure that more than once we have heard the quote or should I call it an advice,

"Choose your friends, don't just allow them choose you."

The issue of who you relate with is so important that the Bible says, .... , yeah, I know you know the scripture.

"...evil communication corrupts good manners"

It took a while for me to consciously learn that friendship goes beyond the matching clothes, bags, shoes, hats and really, matching outfits in general. It's beyond just calling someone your 'bff', 'bmf' (nah, that doesn't exist) or 'real g'.
It's having someone who's going to be there.

Backstabbing is heartbreaking but having 'friends' who will only sing your praise is almost as bad. Your friends should be able to stop you in your tracks when you're going off. They should be able to tell you that music isn't for you when it isn't, you know, stuff like that.

It's a lot more easy ride, just hanging with your 'praise singers' than hanging with those who'll tell you the truth but it's also a dangerous ride.
Truth is we don't know everything, we don't see all the colours in the picture that's why it's important that the people around are willing to share with you, what exactly they see.

On the other side of the coin, if the people around you never like anything you do, hmmm! Maybe you should check both yourself and them.

Friendships are amazing but to get the whole package, they have to be REAL!!
Enjoy your weekend. xoxo


It's Kaydo

“You’re familiar with the old written law, ‘Love your friend,’ and its unwritten companion, ‘Hate your enemy.’ I’m challenging that. I’m telling you to love your enemies. Let them bring out the best in you, not the worst. When someone gives you a hard time, respond with the energies of prayer, for then you are working out of your true selves, your God-created selves. This is what God does. He gives his best—the sun to warm and the rain to nourish—to everyone, regardless: the good and bad, the nice and nasty. If all you do is love the lovable, do you expect a bonus? Anybody can do that. If you simply say hello to those who greet you, do you expect a medal? Any run-of-the-mill sinner does that.

Life is beautiful. Life is well, incomplete without people. If you're like me, you ENJOY your company. You would rather live in a world of your own and have minimal connections with other people. But life isn't that way, everyone needs people and even when you don't really need them, there are always people around you.
A nice person is a good-natured person. Being nice doesn't have to be complicated. Be nice for real, not just because you want to put up a show.
Stay within your boundaries but honestly care. Work on your attitude and check your relationships with people especially if you don't know them personally.



It's Kaydo