A couple of days ago, I posted a picture on Facebook with this caption, "I've grown so deeply in love with myself. I understand that I am not perfect YET! So with all my flaws, I Love Me!" I got a couple of replies too this because this wasn't the first time I was talking about loving myself. Someone asked me why do you love yourself so much?

I've been through quite a handful. I wouldn't call it a lot but I've had experiences. I would say that a couple of years ago, I could not honestly say that I loved myself. I honestly did hate me. I didn't like my height, or my legs. I didn't like the fact that my voice was tiny, I wanted a much deeper voice. I didn't like how slow my hair was growing. This is but a little of the stuff that I didn't like about me.

In December 2011, I had a love encounter that changed my view about me. My love relationship with the Holy spirit grew. He showed that my flaws and 'imperfections' didn't make me less valuable or less important. This is because, the major reason why I didn't like myself was because I felt like I was less important. In my journey of love, I have learnt that the so called imperfections are a part of His divine plan for my life.

So, when I say that I have grown so deeply in love with me, it's not because I have chosen to be self centered. It is but a honest declaration. I know that I may not be perfected in the lifestyle of love but one thing that I have learnt over the while is that it is difficult to honestly love someone when you have not loved yourself. Your love for someone else can only flow from within you.

I understand that we may not all love ourselves with the same degree or ability. Some people may not love any bit of themselves and others may be having quite a struggle accepting a certain part of themselves. If you wouldn't mind, let me introduce you the love that changed my perspective about me. I accepted the love of God into my life and His love changed me!

So, like I replied to that conversation, I love me because God loves me so much even when I don't deserve it. So, it's now in my nature, it overflows from within

I Love Me!!

I Love You!!

..you are SPECIAL!

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We are different. You, me, everyone is different in their own way. If we were all exactly the same, trust me the world would be so boring and living wouldn't be so worth it. Sometimes, actually most of the times, the differences with someone is not what we expect. What they do as an expression of themselves can actually step on your toes and hurt your pride. A couple of people can deal with that but some others can't. A lot of us have ideas of what we think everybody should look like, act like, talk like and live like but the truth is that no matter how much you think about and no matter how well you strategize and plan your techniques, you cannot change everybody because we were made to be different.

Honestly, I get annoyed when people try to make to make others fit into a box. Some people just can't stand others being different. I understand that some people are really annoying and that their lives need some polishing but the fact that they don't look like what you think they should doesn't give you the right to judge them because trust me there is something bout you too that someone somewhere is trying to deal with. What's up with the trying to make everyone fit into your idea of perfection?

Talk about being perfect, who is? Until we accept the fact that honestly we cannot 'make' people think, act or speak the way we want, we would be living as unhappy people. Lots of people live very unhappy lives and are constantly mad at someone else. They have their joy dashed to pieces and whether consciously or not choose sad lives over happiness because they are constantly trying to make people into something else. If we spent as much time improving ourselves as we spend trying to make others, we would be a whole lot better.

Give people the chance to express themselves. It may hurt you, it and may not be exactly what you would say but allow them be themselves, allow them make their decisions. You can point out the better way they could have done it but don't rub in their face and don't try to make them change.